One of the biggest reasons people fail to recover and find healing after infidelity is to lose sight of God.
It took me a long time to overcome my hurts and find true and lasting healing because I wouldn’t listen to truth.
After I discovered my husband’s obsession with pornography, I thought I could use logic and justice to make sense of my world.
But real solutions are not found in your reason or senses, but in the person of Jesus Christ.
Jehovah is the name that reveals God as the self-existent one. This name is significant when it comes to understanding that healing is NOT really dependent upon anything other than God. -Kay Arthur
The one big lesson I learned through my own trials was to stop analyzing, fretting, working and doing, and just submit to God. I pray you don’t make the same mistake as me, thinking that the world’s ways or your abilities can fix your life.
Are you suffering or surrendering?
One response to life’s hardships can be self-pity, focusing on suffering and viewing “self” as a victim.
You may feel justified, but regardless of what you call it, it is not submission to God.
That is surrendering to the wiles of the devil.
It is possible to give up your right to be a victim, to let go of pride and admit your weaknesses. Not only is it possible, it is necessary.
“God resists the proud,
But gives grace to the humble.”
Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
The alternative is to permanently label yourself “VICTIM.”
The victim doesn’t really want healing, she wants recognition. She is so engrossed in thoughts of self, there is no room to meditate on the grandeur and majesty of God. Though she says she wants justice, she cannot recognize that Christ Himself didn’t demand justice, but put Himself in God’s hands.
…when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously… -1 Peter 2:23
When you learn to view all of life through a biblical perspective, you can cope with any adversity because you understand there is a bigger purpose for your life. And that a good, wise and loving Father is present and at work in your life.
But there is more to life than merely coping.
There is conquering.
God uses trials to draw us closer to Him and TRANSFORM us to become more like Jesus.
My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. -James 1:2-4
In this context, “perfect” means “having reached the end” and “complete” means “whole.”
To become whole, you need God’s help to resist self-pity and self-focus of any kind.
Going to the Lord for strength and wisdom will start you on the ONLY track to sanity and healing.
“The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon Me,
Because the LORD has anointed Me
To preach good tidings to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to those who are bound…” -Isaiah 61:1
Until you submit to Jesus, you will not only be spiritually handcuffed, but will remain emotionally broken as well.
A victim is always looking inward, a practice that promotes helplessness, because it will always see its human limitations rather than God’s all-surpassing power.
The only solution to overcome the defeatist mindset is choosing to be responsible before God by obeying His truth–submitting to Him.
Do you need help adjusting your vision so you can see your life with a biblical perspective?
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