Pornography leads to violence.
Even Christians deceive themselves into believing they are not hurting anyone but themselves when they use pornography.
But pornography statistics prove otherwise.
Don’t be fooled.
A mask of Christianity cannot hide the monster behind the mask forever.
The demon within will eventually take on a life of its own and begin to destroy the lives of others.
As the wife of a former porn addict, I can look back on the warning signs of pornography use that I noticed, but chose to ignore. Some were obvious; the more subtle ones are only clear in hindsight.
Christ would have us confront the sinner and expose the sin, but many wives are just as weak as the men they are married to. They hide behind their own veil of pride, or prefer to pretend all is well when they know something is definitely wrong.
Some women believe they are to be submissive, often to the exclusion of biblical commands to rebuke the hardened sinner. Regardless of the reasons why they fear speaking out, wives should sense some role of responsibility in protecting others when they are aware of the problem.
Sadly, as long as we remain silent, we not only put our marriages at risk, we enable men to become monsters that put all of society at risk.
James Dobson interviewed Ted Bundy the night before he was electrocuted to death for the rape and death of at least 30 women. His lawyer claimed it was over 100 people, including children and a man.
As you read the excerpt below, consider how his use of pornography affected society at large.
There is no such thing as sin only hurting yourself. Nobody lives in a vacuum. Everybody’s actions affect others in one way or another.
Ted: Before we go any further, it is important to me that people believe what I’m saying. I’m not blaming pornography. I’m not saying it caused me to go out and do certain things. I take full responsibility for all the things that I’ve done. That’s not the question here. The issue is how this kind of literature contributed and helped mold and shape the kinds of violent behavior.
JCD: Porongrpahy fueled your fantasies?
Ted: In the beginning, it fuels this kind of thought process. Then, at a certain time, it is instrumental in crystallizing it, making it into something that is almost a separate entity inside.
JCD: You had gone about as far as you could go in your own fantasy life, with printed material, photos, videos, etc., and then there was the urge to take that step over to a physical event?
Ted: Once you become addicted to it, and I look at this as a kind of addiction, you look for more potent, more explicit, more graphic kinds of material. Like an addiction, you keep craving something which is harder and gives you a greater sense of excitement, until you reach the point where the pornography only goes so far – that jumping off point where you begin to think maybe actually doing it will give you that which is just beyond reading about it and looking at it.
JCD: How long did you stay at that point before you actually assaulted someone?
Ted: A couple of years. I was dealing with very strong inhibitions against criminal and violent behavior. That had been conditioned and bred into me from my neighborhood, environment, church, and schools.
I knew it was wrong to think about it, and certainly, to do it was wrong. I was on the edge, and the last vestiges of restraint were being tested constantly, and assailed through the kind of fantasy life that was fueled, largely, by pornography.
I think society deserves to be protected from me and from others like me. That’s for sure. What I hope will come of our discussion is that I think society deserves to be protected from itself. As we have been talking, there are forces at loose in this country, especially this kind of violent pornography, where, on one hand, well-meaning people will condemn the behavior of a Ted Bundy while they’re walking past a magazine rack full of the very kinds of things that send young kids down the road to being Ted Bundys. That’s the irony.
You can read more of this interview here: TED BUNDY’S FINAL INTERVIEW