If you are suspicious but not certain, you need to get serious about why you are suspicious.
- Does your husband behave differently towards you, either in public or private situations?
- Does he suddenly close web pages when you or somebody else walks into the computer room?
- Has your sex life changed?
- Does he ever seem to be sneaky with the mail?
- Are there unexplainable long-distance phone charges?
There is a great deal of research to warrant you suspicions.
Here are some very sobering statistics: (compiled by FamilySafeMedia.com)
- 50% of Christian men admit to being ADDICTED to porn
- 20% of Christian women STRUGGLE with porn
- 47% of Christian families say porn is a PROBLEM in their home
- Over half of evangelical pastors interviewed last year, admitted they intentionally view pornography.
If you do not have sufficient evidence to prove your husband’s guilt, don’t pretend you feel better and ignore your intuition. It’s your job to obtain evidence to prove him guilty, or hopefully, prove yourself wrong.
If you remain suspicious even without valid proof, I suggest you lay your heart out to your husband. Do not attack, but humbly explain to your husband that your suspicions have become a stumbling block in your heart and mind and ask him if he will attend counseling with you.
- Did his body language indicate he was shocked by your suggestion?
- Did he lose eye contact with you?
- Did he get a nervous look on his face?
- Did his tone of voice change when he responded?
- How long did it take him to respond?
If he doesn’t agree to counseling, ask him to give his reasons. Are they valid reasons?