Every man must make a deliberate decision about his manhood, how it affects himself, his wife, his marriage, and above all, his God.
If your husband has made the decision to view pornography, he has willingly invited a deadly cancer into his soul.
His perverted will acts in defiance against a holy, loving God and unless he repents, his misery will be fulfilled on Judgement Day.
Such fear-filled thoughts should drive a wife into action.
Not sure how to approach your husband?
Watch the video several times until you really identify with the speaker’s intentions. (Ed Welch is a gifted Christian counselor and author.)
Then ask God for wisdom to know exactly how and when to approach your spouse and initiate a conversation about his pornography use.
Here are the highlights:
- You must have forgotten or never known who Jesus really is.
- There is no place that is private that Jesus cannot see.
- Perhaps you have forgotten that His commandments are not burdensome.
- He is interested in you having abundant joy.
- Do you want to change?
- Are you willing to do the work?
- If you want help, but can’t identify the nature of that help, let’s pray.
- Let the Spirit give you a battle plan
- If you don’t have a battle plan, you’re not on the right track.
God designed sex to be a glorious act of love and bonding together of two people committed to each other for life.
If pornography is destroying that bond and your husband’s commitment to you has faltered, pray for him right now.
Use Romans 7:15-25 as your guide:
O, God, perhaps my husband delights in your law in his inner being but sees another law at work in the members of his body. If he does what he wills not to do, it is no longer him who does it, but sin that dwells in him. Please deliver him from that body of death! I thank you God, through Jesus Christ my Lord!
Ask God to help you fulfill 1 Peter 3:9 :
Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.