A recent University of Utah study concluded that marriage problems lead to heart problems in women. Although science has now proven what most women already know, that provides little relief for the wife plagued with intense emotional stress.
Finances, in-laws, children, work, etc. all compete for your time and attention and often put a wedge between you and your spouse. Marriage can slide into second, third, or fourth place too easily as you try to balance all the demands of daily living. You can’t be all things to all people, yet for many of you, you’ll die trying, literally.
When the stress of life overwhelms you, you may begin to distance yourself from others, as you just can’t handle any more problems. You may find it difficult to resolve conflicts and your primary relationship, your marriage, is the one that suffers most.
When the most important relationship in life is at stake, you no longer have a strong shoulder to lean on and a confidante to help you deal with life’s problems. You begin to feel all alone and hopeless. This is when many women internalize their responses to stress and attempt to live beyond themselves. Denial is the first choice for many women, while emotional outbursts are at the opposite pole, and some women bounce from one extreme to the other. All of these eventually cause negative health effects.
Anger is an emotional response to an underlying pain. Suppressing or expressing anger are the two methods most people use to vent their emotions, but neither gives the relief you need. You first must identify exactly what causes your feelings before you can know which one, if either, of those methods will help solve the problem.
People usually don’t take the time to think through their feelings before responding to them. Many people don’t want to deal with what’s causing the negative emotions, but there is no other way to find a solution unless you first identify the problem. Without taking that first and most crucial step, you will continue in the unhealthy cycle of emotional responses of denial or outburst.
A person ruled by their emotions is headed for despair. You must master your feelings or they will become a harsh master over you. God says to be angry, yet not sin. Is that really possible? Of course it is, or it wouldn’t be a command. You must learn biblical strategies that work, or you will begin to suffer physically.
Research has proven that your mental health has a profound effect on your physical health. Now is the time to learn how to identify and properly express your feelings, before they surface as health problems.
When you get pulled in too many directions, you don’t have enough energy left to work on your marriage. But you can improve your physical health and overall emotional well-being by improving your marriage. Don’t wait another minute. Put the brakes on everything else that’s causing your stress and focus on your number one relationship. Do something healthy for your heart…deal with your marriage problems TODAY!