MRI Studies Reveal That Watching Internet Pornograpy Shrivels Brain

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It comes as no surprise to see science confirm that watching Internet pornography shrivels the brain.

Scientific studies reveal what most Christians already know: your mind, body and spirit are affected by all you do.

The Bible warns that man will not be rewarded for sin, but will indeed reap what he sows.

 Men who watch large amounts of sexually explicit material have brains with smaller reward systems, a study finds.

“That could mean that regular consumption of pornography more or less wears out your reward system,” says Simone Kühn, psychologist at the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Berlin and lead author of the study, published in the “JAMA Psychiatry” journal.

Your reward system is a collection of neural structures in the brain that regulate and control behavior by inducing pleasure.

The researchers scanned the brains of 64 men aged between 21 and 45 with a MRI machine.

Those probands – or study subjects – who watched porn often had a smaller striatum, which is an important part of the reward system and also involved in sexual arousal.

The study also found that the reward systems of porn-experienced men were less active when they watched sexually arousing pictures inside the MRI machine.

“We assume that probands with a high porn consumption need increasing stimulation to receive the same amount of reward,” Simone Kühn says.

Like Cocaine and Gaming

Kühn says the team had predicted it would observe changes in the reward system - but the opposite of what it ultimately found.

The striatum is also involved in drug addiction.

In 2001, researchers found that reward-system-related brain parts were up to ten percent larger in cocaine addicts than in non-dependent probands.

And as if that wasn’t enough: “In a study with teenagers we found that frequent PC games playing leads to an increase in the size of the striatum,” says Kühn. But she notes she was surprised to see that male porn-watchers had smaller – not larger – striatum than the other men in the study.

She says she had expected porn consumption to increase the size of the reward system – rather than make it shrink.

This is the law of diminishing returns in the life of a sinner.  God will not be mocked.

Read the full article at http://www.dw.de.

Learn how to help somebody affected by pornography:  BEYOND BETRAYAL BLUEPRINT

Pornography Statistics Compiled By People Who Want To Quit Porn

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And now for something totally different:  Pornography statistics from a site where people “voluntarily” post about their desire to quit pornography.

I came across an infographic with all sorts of new pornography statistics and was researching the source and discovered new insights into the minds of porn users:  http://www.nofap.org/

Their home page is promoting:

  • Recover from porn-induced sexual dysfunction
  • Stop objectifying and establish meaningful connections
  • Improve your relationships
  • Live a more fulfilling life

What is NoFap?

NoFap hosts challenges in which participants abstain from pornography or masturbation for a period of time. This website is also a venue for open discussion of the NoFap experience and related issues. Whether your goal is casual participation in a NoFap week or monthly challenge as a test of self-control, or whether excessive masturbation or pornography has become a problem in your life and you want to quit for a longer period of time, you will find a supportive community and plenty of resources here.

Why?

The benefits listed here are based on the anecdotal reports of NoFap community members. They range from zero to life-changing. Individual results will vary; they are absolutely not guaranteed.

Abstaining from PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) has often resulted in…

  • Recovery from porn-induced sexual dysfunction. Many fapstronauts report that NoFap’s programs have cured erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation, along with other sexual issues.
  • Increased self-control. Some fapstronauts do not feel like they have a pornography or masturbation problem. They are here to put their willpower to the test by facing their own instincts to pursue easy sexual arousal or indulge in certain sexual behaviors.
  • More hard-drive space. Some of the larger porn collections we’ve heard about can take up terabytes of information. No more hoarding. Permanently deleting it will free up a lot of hard drive space. As an added bonus, you won’t be hesitant to let people borrow your computer anymore.
  • More time. No more spending hours at the computer looking for that one video to get you off. That time can be better spent pursuing  your passions, bettering your life, and spending time with friends or a significant other. The possibilities are endless.
  • Improved attitude. Many nofappers described increased happiness throughout their lives, especially in their attitudes towards sex and interpersonal relationships.

Here’s a post made by a “Fapstronaut” in the ReddIt.com group who is making his goals public:

No masturbation, no porn, no looking at tempting pictures or videos. 2 months.

My goals are: 1) Completely stop watching pornography for life. 2) Stop masturbating.

I am doing this because: 1) I want to be faithful to my wife. 2) I want to improve my sexual performance and intimacy with my wife. 3) I need to put more time and energy into my career. 4) I want to have control over my life. 5) I don’t want to feel guilty about who I am

People involved in pornography often come to the end of their rope, realizing that porn cannot deliver what it supposedly promises:  sexual gratification.

If your husband came to a realization that he has lost control over his life and feels guilty about his involvement in porn, would you be supportive in helping him?

Leave your answer in the comments section below.


Virtual Infidelity Warps Man’s Identity

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How does virtual infidelity warp man’s identity?

Alexandra Alter of The Wall Street Journal wrote several years ago about a growing trend of virtual affairs starting on gaming sites such as “Second Life.”

Family-law experts and marital counselors say they’re seeing a growing number of marriages dissolve over virtual infidelity. Cyber affairs don’t legally count as adultery unless they cross over into the real world, but they may be cited as grounds for divorce and could be a factor in determining alimony and child custody in some states, according to several legal experts, including Jeff Atkinson, professor at the DePaul University College of Law and author of the American Bar Association’s “Guide to Marriage, Divorce and Families.”

This past June, the American Medical Association called for more psychiatric research on excessive gaming, but backed away from classifying videogame addiction as a formal disorder.

 A typical “gamer” spends 20 to 40 hours a week in a virtual world.

Some gamers say the addictive dangers have been overstated, citing surveys that show most players spend fewer hours online than the average American spends watching television. And unlike television, online games are social. In June, when Mr. Hoogestraat first logged on to Second Life after he had his gall bladder removed, he was greeted with 50 messages from virtual friends asking him how the surgery went.

Still, some antigaming organizations and psychiatrists say the social aspects of such games may be driving up pressure to play for longer stretches. Kimberly Young, a clinical psychologist and founder of the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery, said the majority of the 200 cases a year she sees for counseling involve interactive fantasy role-playing games. “They start forming attachments to other players,” she says. “They start shutting out their primary relationships.”

Other experiments show that people socializing in virtual worlds remain sensitive to subtle cues like eye contact. In one study, participants moved their avatars back if another character stood too close, even though the space violation was merely virtual, says Jeremy Bailenson, director of Stanford’s Virtual Human Interaction Lab, which was created five years ago to study social behavior in virtual worlds. “Our brains are not specialized for 21st-century media,” says Prof. Reeves. “There’s no switch that says, ‘Process this differently because it’s on a screen.’ “

I suggest you go read the full article to get the scoop on one man’s slump into this gaming life and how quickly it became a consuming obsession for him.

Be sure to read through to the end and get his wife’s perspective.

See the excerpt below.

Sitting alone in the living room in front of the television, Mrs. Hoogestraat says she worries it will be years before her husband realizes that he’s traded his real life for a pixilated fantasy existence, one that doesn’t include her.

“Basically, the other person is widowed,” she says. “This other life is so wonderful; it’s better than real life. Nobody gets fat, nobody gets gray. The person that’s left can’t compete with that.”

Don’t try to compete.  

Instead, confront the situation with the truth.

Click the “Solutions” box below to learn how.


Restoring Intimacy After Infidelity

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Are you still struggling to restore intimacy after infidelity?

Are you able to look at your “cheating” spouse as just your “spouse”?

Once you’ve moved through the confrontation, confession and repentance period, the restoration period is the next necessary step.

Restoring intimacy is often just as difficult as the previous stages of infidelity.

For some people, this is actually the hardest stage.

But you can succeed if you commit every detail of your marriage relationship to God.  [Read more…]

Is Virtual Infidelity Grounds for Divorce?

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Is virtual infidelity grounds for divorce?

Cyber-sex, sexting, lurid Facebook messages, and other forms of virtual infidelity are becoming increasingly prevalent in Family Law. With vastly improved computer graphics and enhanced reality, the real world and the virtual world are becoming increasingly blurred.

While people may think their online indiscretions are harmless or “don’t count,” the consequences of their behavior are very real.

No doubt virtual infidelity will become an increasingly important issue in many divorces in the future.
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Warning Signs of Sexual Addiction

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Are there visible warning signs that your spouse may have a sexual addiction?

A person ensnared by alcohol, gambling, and drug addictions is fairly easily seen by family members and close friends; however, because of the availability, anonymity, and affordability that the internet provides, sexual addiction is often hidden in the shadows for long periods of time, often for years and decades.

Discovery may come as a moment of “surprise” to the addict and the discoverer alike (most often a spouse or child), through revelations of “odd” numbers or charges from phone records or hotel bills, or by the addict being caught in a sting by law enforcement.


Sexual Addiction
: A Modern Plague | Inklings and Wonderings

Whether man or woman, adult or child, non-Christian or Christian, sexual addiction is ravaging all people groups in American culture today.

Read more …

My husband was arrested while on the job.  I learned of his pornography obsession when undercover cops showed up at my door with a search warrant in the middle of the afternoon.

Were there warning signs I failed to recognize?

Warning signs of sexual addiction may include:
  •     Unexplained or increased secrecy or distance in a relationship.
  •     Changes in the sexual relationship (increase or decrease in desire).
  •     Increased time spent on the computer. Staying up late to “play computer games”.
  •     Unexplained decrease in productivity in regular activities. Irritability, lack of concentration, anxiety, or depression.

Click here to get the full 7 Warning Signs Your Husband Is Using Pornography report.